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Q: "I have a loud inner critic that's constantly bringing me down. How can I learn to start being kinder to myself?"

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Q: "My boyfriend has anger management problems and it’s starting to really take its toll on me. I’ve told him it makes me extremely anxious when he’s yelling but it keeps happening. It’s like living with Jekyll and Hyde. I’ve suggested therapy but he said he’s just an angry person, it’s just the way he is. The thought of splitting up makes me incredibly sad and I worry that I won’t find anyone better than him. I keep telling myself that nobody is perfect but then I worry that I’m putting up with what other people would not. What should I do?"

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Q: “I’m a newly qualified therapist suffering from burnout. I struggle with imposter syndrome and work-life boundaries. I find it very difficult to switch off after work and find myself worrying about clients. These past three months have been particularly stressful as my long-term relationship ended and I underwent testing for a serious health problem (turns out I’m okay). What are some practical steps I can take to recover from burnout?"

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Q: “I've been working long hours for the past few months and my body feels constantly tense, especially my shoulders and neck, and I keep catching myself tensing my jaw. I've started to have headaches and I think it might be related. Do you have any tips for how I can relax my body?"

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Q: "I just came across the term “splitting” and it’s definitely something I suffer from in my relationships. I’d like some tips on how to recognise when it’s happening and how to deal with it."

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Q: "Lately I've been feeling really bored, flat and like I have no energy to do anything. What are some steps I can take to feel more energised?"

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Q: "I've recently decided to start therapy, but I don't know how to go about it. I'm scared of making the wrong choice. How do you choose a therapist to work with?"

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Q: "I'm struggling with feelings of worthlessness that always come sneaking in. They seem to be kept away by the things I accomplish. I want to learn how to feel more confident and accepting of myself regardless of what I achieve. Can you help?"

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Q: "Can you give me some anger management tips?"

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Q: "I struggle to quiet my mind at night and it's stopping me from getting to sleep at a reasonable hour. How can I learn to switch off?"

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Q: "What are some concrete tools people can use to better sit with uncertainty?"

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Q: "I've been putting off an important task and the guilt that I feel about it has been bringing me down. I'm usually a very conscientious person but somehow, I just can’t bring myself to get on with it and this is taking a toll on my emotions. What may be the best way to conquer this?"

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Q: "When I get stressed, I fail to put into practice all the advice I have read and been given. In particular, mindfulness focused breathing, which should be relatively easy to put into practice (I have been doing yoga on/off for years). Why don't I think to put it to good use when I need it the most?"

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