What Is Self-Coaching?Carving out time for self-reflection is key to living a fulfilling life.
As Carl Jung wisely said: "The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are." How can you really know yourself if you don't take the time to reflect?
When we reflect internally, our train of thought can end up unclear and scattered. Plus, any insights we do have are easily forgotten.
An alternative? Self-coaching: the number one tool for effective introspection.
In self-coaching, you are your own coach. It's a simple yet powerful way to increase your self-awareness and achieve positive change using a guided introspection process. This tool is particularly helpful for people who:
- Feel stuck, overwhelmed or stressed
- Are prone to overthinking
- Struggle to take action and create long-lasting change
Key Benefits of Self-Coaching
- Gain powerful insights into yourself and your life.
- Achieve clarity on what you want and how you can get there.
- Develop a stronger sense of life direction and purpose.
Planning Your Way to a Better FutureThe GROW Model is a four-step system you can use to begin self-coaching.
Sir John Whitmore and his colleagues first outlined this model in Coaching for Performance back in 1991.
GROW is an acronym that stands for:
Step One: GoalThe first step in self-coaching is clarifying what is it you want to achieve.
It's about digging deep and discovering what it is you really want, as opposed to what you think you should want.
Example Grow Questions
- Where do you most want to see change in your life?
- What do you really want, in an ideal world?
- What would your life look like if other people's opinions didn't matter?
Step Two: Current RealityStep two of The GROW Model is vital for effective self-coaching.
It’s the part that’s usually missing from every day conversation, as we so often jump straight into our options.
Reflecting on the present helps you develop a greater understanding of your current situation. This often generates new insights, which then naturally feeds into your options.
Example Current Reality Questions
- What’s happening right now?
- What will happen if you don’t take action?
- What are your reasons not to change? What are you gaining from how things are now?
- What are your options?
- What’s worked for you in the past?
- What could be your first small step?
- How committed are you to this on a scale of 1-10?
- What do you think would need to happen for you to be more committed?
- How can you break this down into small action steps?
Step Three: OptionsWhen you have a clear idea of what you want to achieve and where you are at the moment, you move onto considering your possible action steps.
Example Options Questions
Step Four: Will (or Way Forward)The final part of the self-coaching process is to decide on your small action steps for creating positive change.
You also reflect on your commitment levels and consider whether there's anything you can do to feel even more committed.
Example Will Questions
Check-in SessionsWhen practicing self-coaching, we encourage you to set timelines to check in with yourself and your progress.
Here are some example self-coaching check-in questions:
|If You Completed Your Action Step||If You Didn’t Complete Your Action Step|
What worked well?
What could you have done differently?
What are your thoughts on your goal now?
What’s the impact of not having done this?
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